What does being a mom mean?
Being a mom means accepting that it changes, it evolves, it grows and it shrinks.
Sometimes in our lives, being a mom defines us. It’s who we are…northing more and nothing less.
We hold, we rock, we cuddle, we feed, we are up all night at the sound of a cough. Being a mom is life for our baby.
Then it shifts. They are mobile and crawl away from us. They learn to feed themselves. We still provide the nourishment and love and safety, but’s changed. We, as moms, are still the center of the world, until the world grows beyond us.
They grow and shift again. We are no longer the center of the world. There are teachers and fiends and the world expands beyond us. We are still there providing hugs, kissing boo boos, and making things better. We even can choose to be involved in their outside world. Maybe we volunteer in the classroom, or at scouts, or with sports. We are still a mom, even though it’s different now.
Then one day, seemingly overnight, they are as tall as you. They are TEENS! The worlds grows tremendously for them! They still need us of course, even when they don’t want to admit it. We are still moms. It’s so different now, though. We have moved from caring for the details to helping them navigate that long, twisty bridge from childhood to adulthood. We don’t always see eye to eye. We disagree. We may argue…a lot! Kisses and bandaids don’t fix the hurts as easily as it did when they were three. There are more broken hearts than skinned knees now. We offer support, guidance, love, trust, balance, reliability, but we are no longer the center of the world.
Then who are we? After our titles of dance mom, scout mom, soccer mom are over who are we? Did we loose ourselves? What defines us now? How do we adjust and be ourselves again? We will always be a mom, but now we may need other titles as well. We may choose:
We absolutely can get to know ourselves again. Take that time, explore your options, become who you want to be while being a mom. Maybe like me, you’ll decide that you are stronger, wiser, braver and more secure in yourself than you ever were before.
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